Too important to be Taboo

I was recently tagged for the Marriage Meme which got me thinking not only about my actual marriage, but of the choices I made preceeding it.

I chose to make my decision with the help of God through fervent prayer.
I chose to enter it with a heart willing to comromise on the issues that arise when you share your life with another.
I chose to enter it pure, clean; virginal

A huge part of my religion, emphasizes chastity. I was taught from my early youth that I should save myself for the one I married.
I think motivations for abstinence are most often based on religious belief, which is fine, but may not be enough if our children choose to abandon religion in earlier years.
Those of us who are religious need to explain the immediate and physical consequences of sexual impurity; not only the spiritual. And we ought to do it matter of factly and not as a scare tactic, allowing our children to understand what we want for them, while letting them feel in control of their own choices.

We can teach our children about the multitude of disease that is spread from bed to bed.
We can to teach our daughters to dress modestly. A young man can and ought have self control but how much easier would life be for that young man not to have to exercise so much of it in the first place.
We can teach our children to be modest in their speech. Inappropriate talk leads to inappropriate acts.

I feel that parents are often too embarassed to dicuss these things with their children. I wish I would have been more informed as a teenager about the possible physical consequences of sexual activity.
I am grateful my religious convictions were enough to keep me standing by my decision. I am so happy I was clean for my sweetheart and he for me.

Articles of interest related to this post:

Virgin, It’s Not a Dirty Word by Norman Fulkerson

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July 27, 2007 | Filed Under Health, Motherhood

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4 Responses to “Too important to be Taboo”

mommyzabs on July 28th, 2007 4:05 pm

What a great post. Though I am not LDS, it was my faith in christ and his word that kept me a virgin till i was married and I entered marriage with the same things thought out. Such wisdom in the Bible… If only people knew the rules were so that they would not get hurt not to ruin your life. I wrote a post once as a letter to my sons about virginity and have never posted it. I believe so strongly in abstinance. Thanks for posting this.
Jennifer @Chronicles of a Night Owl on July 30th, 2007 1:01 pm

Wonderfully written post. My parents were always open and honest with us and were never embarrased to talk about anything. I thank God for the way they taught us. My husband and I were both virgins when we married. I won’t say it wasn’t difficult, but having the teaching in me, I was able to do it, and my husband as well. I am incredibly thankful we can use ourselves as examples for our children.
Many people think I’m naive by believing our children can remain virgins. I’m not naive enough to think they absolutely can’t make a mistake, but I firmly believe that if we teach our children the way God directs us to, that they can keep themselves pure (and safe!) as well.
It’s refreshing to find others with the same values and point of view!
Lisa on July 30th, 2007 2:27 pm

Thanks for stopping by my blog! I’m LDS too! :-)
Can I get the recipe for your skillet cobbler that you told me about. Sounds delicious!
Greetings from the Canadian westcoast!
Lisa on July 30th, 2007 2:32 pm

Oh ya, and I meant to say that this is a great post!!! There are some great books by Meg Hicking (also from Vancouver) that are excellent about teaching your kids about sex and body awareness. I don’t jive with 100% of what she has to say but I think she’s on the right track in helping us to teach our kidlets (and young adult kids) about moral purity!! Great great books.

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