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Would you?
I recently read an interesting magazine article about some military wives who have used their husbands frozen sperm to conceive a child after their husband had been killed in the line of duty. Would you consider doing this if your husband had a job with a high mortality rate, had to receive a certain cancer treatment, had a terminal illness, or other?
I think (if I was in that situation) that if we hadn’t already had any children, I might consider it, because I would want a piece of him with me still. But then there is the question of later explaining to the child and/or nosy people about the conception and possible unforseen emotional complications for the child.
I do think it’s amazing that freezing sperm is even a possibility. Technology these days is truly astounding.
So, would you do it?
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12 Responses to “Would you?”
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I think I would do it if he had a cancer twith a high survivability but treatment that would leave him sterile. Otherwise, I can’t imagine doing it - I just can’t get past it mentally.
It seems it would put too much pressure on a kid, like they had to take the place of their father.
Wow, that is a hard one. I have to say I have no idea what I would do. My first reaction was NO way, but that is probably because I truly can not put myself in their shoes.
Tech these days are really amazing! Many and many years ago, I would have imagined these things. Now, almost everything is possible. Almost, that is.
It’s an option I might consider given some circumstances like illness or something like that.
i don’t know..that is really tricky. emotionally it would definitely be hard. seeing the baby born and have him/her looking like your husband. it would be extremely bittersweet. but i would do it.
I really don’t know. In a completely hypothetical case, I probably would. It’s not something I’ll have to consider, though.
Seems weird, asking your husband to freeze some sperm before going off to war.
That’s a bizarre story, but not in a bad way. Just strange.
I’ll have to think about this one.
I probably would not, but because I already have four kids by my dh.
Technology is amazing!
I’m a very big believer in families. I think to give our children the best possible future we need to provide strong families. That includes Mom’s and Dad’s. I understand children do loose one or both parents and grow up to be wonderful people. However it’s not fair to begin a child’s life knowing they’ll never have that special opportunity for a well rounded childhood.
No. I wouldn’t do it. That would be putting my wants before the babies needs. Babies need daddies too!
Very interesting topic! :-)
Corrie - I agree with you fully in that situation. We actually knew a childless couple who had done this, since his cancer treatments would likely render him sterile. Since we moved away I actually don’t know if he survived and if he did, if they had children.
Thanks everyone else for your input on this!
I’m going to agree with Frigga. In a way it does seem a little selfish. Are you really bringing that child into a good situation? I know that no one is ever in a “perfect” place in life to have kids. If we all waited for the “perfect” time, no one would ever have any kids! :) And maybe this is just easy for me to say because I already have 3 kids… I don’t know…
I don’t think so, but it’s so hard to say unless you’re actually in that position.
It’s so amazing at the things that technology can accomplish these days. I really don’t know what I’d do but I think I would lean more towards no.
I think possibly I would, it’s hard to imagine being in that situation. I think my husband’s input and feelings would be the most important part. Then one would have to consider the possibility of remarrying (as hard as that is to think about, it would be a possible event in the future) and what impact that might have. Very interesting subject though, and I wouldn’t judge anyone who did use this option. It’s very personal.