Mama needed a break

I try to be a patient loving mommy. Sometimes it’s hard. Even with my sweet little baby girl. She’s been so sick the past couple of days and today she was more needy than ever. Most of my day was spent trying to console her as she whimpered. Some of my day was spent trying to keep patient with her as she threw numerous screaming and body flailing tantrums if I put her on the floor, or in her high chair or did anything she didn’t like. But at one point it was too much and I set her down and just let her scream and cry, all by her little self.

I hate feeling helpless, knowing my child is hurting but not being able to do anything about it. Knowing they’re hurting and still feeling so frustrated with their grumpy behavior. I needed a break, so I left the kids with hubby and I drove. I went to the grocery store and grabbed a newspaper, I went to the craft store just to browse. Then I went to Barnes & Noble, and ordered my favorite treat, a warm Granny Smith Apple Purse drizzled in caramel. I ate slowly while I read a lame celebrity magazine.

I needed the break. I came home and stroked my sleeping babies cheek, wishing now that I could wake her and hold her for as long as she wanted. Getting away is ok, even necessary at times to being a mama more appreciative of her little ones.

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Comments (14)

BeckyJune 21st, 2008 at 11:18 pm

Glad you got a break, definitely sounds like it was time for one!

It seems like every time I reach that point where I just absolutely *need* a break, it’s in the middle of the day and I can’t just run out screaming, as much as I want to. Times like that, I’m grateful for locks on doors. And walk-in closets.

Hmm, your escape sounds much lovelier than mine.

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Jordan (MamaBlogga)June 22nd, 2008 at 12:00 am

I always feel so guilty for first enjoying and then resenting my son’s illnesses. Hayden isn’t an overly snuggly boy (never has been, not even as a newborn), although he is very sweet. But when he’s sick, he just wants to snuggle. And sleep! So day one is usually great, with a very sweet boy who sleeps literally half of the day.

Day two, though, is almost always crappy. If he’s still not feeling well, he’s whiny. If he’s feeling better, I’m still too cautious to let him get back to normal, which leads to whininess. And because he slept so much on day one, he’s not interested in any sort of sleep on day 2, especially not at bedtime.

Sigh. You’re lucky to get a break! These days never seem to coincide with the days my husband’s off work.

Jordan (MamaBlogga)s last blog post..From the annals of Hayden speak

KimberlyJune 22nd, 2008 at 12:53 am

You expressed that so perfectly! That’s exactly what it’s like. You’re ready to scream, you’re so tired and frustrated…take a wee break, come home…and yes…if the kids are sleeping you get that little twitchy feeling in the heart and want to wake them up because suddenly you miss them. Suddenly you’re sane enough to, I guess.

We need those sanity breaks. Not all moms are lucky enough to get them. I definitely count myself as one of the lucky ones in that respect.

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JaneJune 22nd, 2008 at 2:23 am

Glad you got a break!

My breaks usually consist of shutting the door and walking away - to eat comfort food, catch up on reading email, etc. - since hubby is not usually around to help out. They don’t last long, and I always feel somewhat guilty about the cries, but I tell myself if it keeps me from going crazy and prevents shaken baby syndrome (not that I’ve ever been tempted) then it’s worth it. And baby gets extra snuggles afterwards.

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feenerJune 22nd, 2008 at 4:13 pm

excellent post and yes we need to know our limits, otherwise it is no good for anyone in the family.

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aubreyJune 22nd, 2008 at 7:19 pm

i love doing this, though i don’t do it nearly enough. i always feel guilty about it and need to just NOT feel that way. especially if it makes me a better mom to take that time to regroup. thanks for the reminder, summer!

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DapoppinsJune 22nd, 2008 at 8:12 pm

When I start yelling my husband starts running and I get to take a time out.

I will not admit to yelling just to get the man’s attention that I am close to my breaking point.

You can’t make me.

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JaniceNWJune 22nd, 2008 at 8:21 pm

Mama’s definitely need breaks especially with sick kids. I’m glad you got some time off and reengergized.

Hugs.

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Stacey@Look, Mom, Look!June 22nd, 2008 at 8:56 pm

It must have been a crazy weekend for everyone! Was there a full moon? I had to finally get out of the house for a little bit today. I just went and walked around the wretched mall to stall going home. I should have gotten a coffee and vegged out at the bookstore for some quiet. I swore if I heard “mommy, mommy” along with crying one more time, I was going to lose it.
I am glad that you were able to get a break as well! Caring for sick children is SO draining!

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AllysonJune 23rd, 2008 at 10:18 am

I hear you on this one. Sorry she’s been ill, and I hope she’s feeling much better. Hope you enjoyed your brief time away as well. :-)

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An Ordinary MomJune 23rd, 2008 at 7:15 pm

I could have written this myself. However, for me this doesn’t always happen when they are sick, it also happens during every day life. And every night when I look at my darling kids I vow to be a better mother the next day … but somehow I always forget those feelings I had when they wake me up at the crack of dawn :) !!

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bethnJune 23rd, 2008 at 9:33 pm

Good for you to take the time you need! I relish my times away even if it’s only to go to work without my little helpers. But I agree totally that when I get back I enjoy my children so much more.

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Deb - Mom of 3 GirlsJune 24th, 2008 at 10:14 am

Sometimes you really need that time away just to be able to appreciate them more when you get home. :) I hope that she’s feeling better now, poor thing! And that you are too. :)

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LaurieJune 27th, 2008 at 1:50 pm

Good for you! This is something I do not do very often, actually never. I get away to do things alone but never to relax and just unwind. I love going to Barnes and Noble. It is one of the most relaxing places I can think of. I have never ordered from their little food court though. Hum, I’m thinking that sounds really good.

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